The moral decline of healthy, spiritual relationships between men and women is at the crux of America’s family life decline. And, generally speaking, this is why spiritually; healthy, (societal) interpersonal relationships between “unmarried” males and females are off-center. Primarily, this is due to poor nuclear family examples. Men must love their wives, women must teach their children to love their fathers. Every child knows his/her mother. Wise children know their fathers. Herein lies the problem of the spiritual-moral-breakdown of family life in American society; which in turn, is the foundation of society. “And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone: I will make an help meet for him.” (Genesis 2:18). God has given both men and women a shared responsibility. “What? Know ye not that you’re your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” (1 Corinthians 6: 19-20). A man must ask God for permission to help him find a wife, and likewise, a woman must ask God for help in finding a husband. It is through this Godly process that men and women find each other, and then their marriage is made in heaven, not on earth. Of course, we have too many made in the world, and not in heaven. Men, here’s what the word of God says: “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord.” (Proverbs 18:12).
The shared-responsibility between men and women “should” be taught to the woman by the man, and women should receive, and understand the word of God. And, ultimately teach the responsibility to children in order that they understand the word of God, and eventually know these things: “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise: that it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.” (Ephesians 6: 1-3).
All spiritual sexual-activities are permissible in the bedroom between husbands and wives: “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” (Hebrews 13: 4).
The following scripture is the spiritual meaning of human sexuality that cannot be achieved through same-sex-marriage, and is also an abomination to God, and God turns “such” over to a reprobate mind: “Take ye wives, and beget sons and daughters: and take wives for your sons, and give your daughters to husbands, that they may bear sons and daughters; that ye may be increased there, and not diminished.” (Jeremiah 29: 6). Selah! Therefore, children represent God’s gift of physical immortality to human beings. Nothing can come of homosexuality and same-sex-marriage but ungodly pleasure; not life or any kind of life, but only death eternally.
Men you are on the spiritual-hook through the good times, bad times, and all the time: until-death-do-you-part. “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” (1 Peter 3: 7).
All men must be sanctified in the Word of God (Bible) in order that they might be able to show themselves spiritually approved of God, teach their wives, loved ones, as well as, others. “Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.” (Psalms 119: 105). As servants of God, we know that we must “Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth. But shun profane and vain babblings: for they will increase unto more ungodliness.” (1 Timothy 2: 15-16). In the final analysis, all of us must do the following: “Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee.” (Psalms 119: 11).
Question: Why is this so very important in everyday living; especially in a marital relationship? Answer: It teaches the wife the Word of God, and when the wife strays away from the Word of God, the man can bring her back to the spiritual knowledge of God. And, likewise when the man strays, the wife can bring him back to the spiritual reality of God, because through it all a man is spiritually duty-called to imitate God.
In all marriages husbands and wives will go through the “Fruits of the Spirit” that is experience being spiritually tested. Of course, the devil tested Jesus: “An when the tempter came to him, he said, If thou be the Son of God command that these stones be made bread. But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God.” (Matthew 4: 3-4). If Jesus was tempted by the devil, husbands and wives, get ready, temptation is on its way. This is precisely why you must be strong in the fruits of the spirit.
The first three fruits of the Spirit most husbands and wives can usually manage (Love, Joy, and Peace). Love, Joy and Peace is what can sustain marriages through Long-Suffering, and praising God through Gentleness and Goodness. For, without a doubt, only the strong in God will survive through much, much fervent prayer. Husbands and wives must deal with each other through faith in God, and studying the Word of God. Temperance is about not getting angry (blowing-up and blowing-out), but remain in God’s will that they love one another.
Life is too short to play the guilt game, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God, being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus.” (Romans 3: 23-24). Both men and women must understand that there is no divine Santa Claus, and that all “good and spiritual” things come through obedience to God’s word: “Keep therefore the words of this covenant, and do them, that ye may prosper in all that ye do.” (Deuteronomy 29: 9). Of course, through it all, the marital covenant is “let’s stay together” through loving and obeying the Word of God. This Christian sisters and brothers is what spiritually healthy relationships and marriages are all about. In God we trust these spiritual things to keep us together in sickness, and health, and until death do us part. Selah!